Sometimes we need to say ‘no’ to new requests or new opportunities that are deemed good. Every time we say ‘yes’ to an invitation we are also saying ‘no’ to something else. Often that ‘no’ can be more costly than we realize, especially when it involves our time and energy.
2016 is a year I may need to exercise the word ‘no’ more often. I need to remind myself that ‘no’ is a complete sentence and does not need to be pillowed in a lot of excuses or context. We like to surround ourselves with good opportunities or good open doors to walk through and yet those good things may not be best for our overall wellbeing. We worry that when we say ‘no’ to good things, we will lose the good altogether. This belief keeps people from doing what is best right now. Decisions are seasonal. When we can focus on what is best for this season of life, we create the circumstances that allow us to be ready for the next best thing. Saying ‘no’ to good things allows us to pursue our best interests with greater passion even if we have not mastered them yet. Settling for good can keep you stuck. Pursuing what is best can be risky but full of reward.
“Lay down what’s good and find what’s best” – Jonny Diaz