As individuals, we always have two options any time we receive feedback. America is no different. As Americans, we can ask ourselves two types of questions.
1. What does this feedback say about America?
- Or -
2. What does this feedback say to America?
When we only ask the first question we stay in a mindset of admiring all the things that are wrong. Problem admiration can force us into polarizing thinking. We can believe everything is bad because of someone else’s poor choices. We see this in every election with both sides of the aisle accusing the other of all wrongs. The blame game is tantalizing to play and self-righteousness is a remarkable skill available to all players. Unfortunately, this question puts us in a spin with no growth or change.
However, when we ask ourselves the second question, something may shift. As Americans (as individual leaders), we can move away from ‘everything is about something or someone else’ to – what does this feedback say to me? Mean to me? Prompt in me? Urge in me? Encourage in me? What can emerge in me to be different? How do I respond in ways that are loving, kind, open, ready and willing to change? I cannot wait for another American to do this thinking for me. I am only able to self-author my own reactions versus blame or will a reaction in someone else.
Regardless of your vote - what does this feedback say to you?