Like most people I wear many hats: mom, wife, friend, volunteer, church-member, consultant, executive coach, blogger and doctoral student. There are days it is impossible to have a decent hair day because of all the hats I wear on my head. I’ve come to the realization that being a doctoral student means I may not read a non-school related book for at least another 2.5 years (and that’s if I’m lucky). My house may not be as clean as I like unless I pay for a service. My blogs may not be every 7-10 days unless I blog on the difference between phenomenological research and phenomenographical research. I’m fairly certain no one in my circle wants to read about that. I may have to say no to colleague requests and be selective on who gets my free time. Sometimes, you have to get narrow and focus. Sometimes you have to say “no”, which is a complete sentence and doesn’t always require an accompanying apology. Sometimes you have to spend a little to get what you need instead of doing it yourself. Each of these choices creates a corollary reaction and reality. Sometimes you need to weigh the pros and cons. Sometimes you need to stop thinking and make a call that will lighten the load, ease the pain or create some space.
Where are you spending time that would better serve you to spend money instead?