- Did you send Holiday cards? Yes/No
- What is your preference for receiving cards?
- How do you send cards?
- How do you perceive cards?
The survey had very little to do with Holiday cards. It was an exercise for me to collect some quick anonymous data on the behaviors specific to what we express – what we tend to do or what we initiate with others versus the behavior we want others to initiate with us. Holiday cards were a quick and neutral topic that as predicted, highlight these two constructs.
- 79.85% still want others to send them something (220 want a card to arrive in their mailbox full of festive Holiday cheer, and 100 prefer something electronic, short, and sweet).
- 150 (19.15%) did not care. They see cards as a waste of time.
We can judge the group of 150 who think cards are a waste of time (Scrooges!) but we have to applaud their congruence. They do not express something, and they do not expect it in return. These folks may be less likely to let obligation or guilt motivate them.
As you journey in 2018, where are you noticing congruence between what you desire and what you express? What may need to shift with your schedule, behavior, or thinking to express the things you desire? For more information about these constructs - check out the Fundamental Interpersonal Relations Orientation ™ (FIRO®). It is a quick assessment that gives additional insight into these domains. You can learn more by clicking here: https://shop.cpp.com/products/firo-b/index.aspx