Are you considering making a job change in the next 6-12 months? If so, this is the perfect time for a check-up. I consistently hear clients talk about how they cannot pursue new opportunities until they feel their resume is appropriately updated. The tweaking and revising of this vital document can sometimes become a barrier that keeps people feeling stuck. Here are five tips to get you ready for a change.
1. Get a nice photo taken of yourself. Don’t do a selfie. Have a family member or a good friend take your picture in good light and then do some magic and make that photo into a professional head shot. You will need it for a number of reasons. I recommend at least three different versions.
2. Stop thinking about it and do it. Pull out your resume and give it an update. Have you gotten new degrees, certifications or training? What major accomplishments deserve to be highlighted? Have you had a title change or restructuring in your role with new responsibilities? This is the time to make those changes. Then put it on your calendar as a repeating 1-hour appointment every six months to review and revise your resume.
3. Once your resume is updated, don’t delay updating your LinkedIn account. There are 433 million registered LinkedIn users – your new boss is probably one of them. The average user is on LinkedIn just 17 minutes each month. You have enough time to do the same. Ensure you have an updated profile picture (see #1); you are 14 times more likely to be viewed. Make it a monthly goal to post at least one interesting article and ensure you are connected with groups of professionals in your target career.
4. Identify six professionals in your network that you deem critical connections. These can be colleagues within or outside of your current organization. These are individuals that you believe to be successful, well-connected, and people that may have great advice for you. Even if you are not considering a change in the near future, do not wait. Cultivate your network and keep them close. Create a touch point with all six before the end of the year through either a phone call, coffee/lunch date, or at a minimum, an email.
5. Say yes to the requests that come from others when they reach out to you for career connections and advice. You may be on someone’s top six list. It can be hard to find time for everything, but it is never a waste of time. You also never know when a connection can become reciprocal in your career path.
If you do not have time in July to hit all five of these points – just begin. Do not wait until December or January to focus on a desired transition. Take advantage of the flexibility that summer months often provide and be a good steward of your own career. When that new opportunity surfaces before the end of the year, you will be ready!
What part of this check-up do you need to focus on first? When is your check-up scheduled?
Last summer my friend Tracy wrote a blog post about her life, and it ended up changing mine. She strayed from her usual corporate writing and wrote about being a black woman, married to a black man, raising a black son. A picture of her tightly hugging her family leaps from the page. “My world is filled with African American men, young and old, corporate and working class, executives and cleaning staff. Mustached, clean-shaven, suits, jeans, erudite, streetwise, even some in earrings. They are my family, the husbands, brothers, and sons of my 'Momtourage' mother’s group, school chums, Boy Scout Troop 242, church members and friends. My world transforms into a cornucopia of brown hues when I leave the office. Every one of them are loved and valued.”
Tracy and I have a lot in common. We are leadership coaches, consultants, alumni, moms, wives, church-goers, and we are both passionate – sometimes finishing each other’s sentences when it comes to facilitation. However, she deals with something every day that I do not experience. Daily she prays a specific prayer for her black husband and son. She prays, “that a chance encounter with an officer doesn't result in me living without them.” Click here to read her entire article A New Normal.
Her post was shared with hundreds of coaches, and she caused many of us to awaken from a light slumber that many of us agreed we had fallen. What is happening to our black men? How has racism shifted in America? Have we fallen even further behind pre-Civil Rights Movements? What is it like to be black today? Do I, as a white person, understand their lived experience? These were several of the questions we began to ask, and I was only able to answer one with confidence. No! I, as a white woman, do not understand the lived experience of being black. Acknowledging this was part of my shift last summer and I wanted to understand. I want to be a passionate listener with a voice of solidarity and change. I do not want to be a blind and slumbering white women who suddenly awakens after decades and feigns confusion on how racism has gotten so bad in America.
Thankfully, I was not alone in my declaration of not knowing. Over 100 coaches stepped forward and said, “let’s talk.” As a group, we are some of the best-trained coaches in the world. We are working with prestigious leaders in private and public sectors; we partner with leaders on change strategies to engage their employees and move their organizations to stability and sustainable practices. We delve into adult development theories and coach from a place of exquisite art, grounded theory, and evidence-based practice. Given the access we have to our clients, organizations, communities, and government - what on earth was keeping us from talking about race? And so, we began. For the past year, we have had rich, deep, painful, and real conversations about the black and white dynamic in America. We have sat in living rooms with our black brothers and sisters, and we have connected virtually with colleagues all over the country.
After a year of small group discussion and ferocious reading, I still do not fully understand the lived experience of what it means to be black in America, but I’m becoming more and more aware. Recently, I was talking to tall, broad, older, black man in DC who told me that fifty years ago he knew exactly where he could walk, stand, or sit. He understood what areas of town never to enter. Today, the rules are different – there are none. What it means to be in the wrong place at the wrong time is uncertain and no longer predictable. He said it feels much harder today than any time in his life.
These are not conversations I was engaged in before last summer. And now, I cannot seem to stop myself from taking about race or asking questions about the black experience. Not long ago I asked a black client of mine why black men choose to marry white women. He leaned forward and said, “I do not think anyone has ever asked me that question.” We then had a great conversation, and he shared his thoughts about interrracial marriage, and I learned a lot. The beauty is that we talked (really talked) and the conversation left us both in different places of willingness to name, admit, voice, own, accept, and honor.
One year ago, when we decided as coaches to begin this journey, we created the following charter statement:
As members of the Georgetown and wider coaching community, we believe it is our foundational and essential practice to engage in and facilitate dialogue where we notice pain and misunderstanding. We choose not to be silent but to use our voices, abilities, and passion to encourage awareness, healing, mutual understanding, appreciation, and respect for all Especially with respect to race at this time in America, particularly the black/white dynamic and our longing for racial equality
As is true with anything in life, once you become conscious and awake to something, you cannot accidentally slip back into unconsciousness – If you do, it is nothing more than a choice to ignore. I am conscious of race conversations that still need to be explored. I am conscious of my privilege. I am conscious of the fact that people long for a witness to their life. Each story is an opportunity to understand a unique person sitting in front of me with eyes like mine but with a different pigment in their skin that makes me look more pink than white. It is hard not to get drawn into a smile that lights up an entire face and not be moved by a laugh that shakes me to my core, all while trying to make sense of this gestalt issue that we call race. My journey has just begun, and I imagine it will end at the grave. I look forward to the many future conversations that will keep me from ignorance and slumber.
How normal is it for you to talk about race with your family, friends, or colleagues?
See below for a great list of books that have been part of my waking up journey.
1. Coates, T.-N. (2015). Between the world and me (First edition. ed.). New York, NY: Spiegel & Grau.
2. Halstead, J. (2016). The Real Reason White People Say ‘All Lives Matter’ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/john-halstead/dear-fellow-white-people-_b_11109842.html
3. Irving, D. (2014). Waking up White: And finding myself in the story of race (1st edition. ed.). Cambridge, MA: Elephant Room Press.
4. Washington, B. T. (1963). Up from slavery, an autobiography. Garden City, NY: Doubleday.
5. Wilkerson, I., & Miles, R. (2011). The warmth of other suns: The epic story of America's great migration. Grand Haven, MI: Brilliance Audio.
Carrie Arnold, PhD, MCC, BCC
In no particular order: Author | Dog mom to Moose | Speaker | Reader Mom to human offspring Wife | Lover of Learning Leadership coach & consultant, The Willow Group | Fellow, Institute for Social Innovation | Program Director for Evidence-Based Coaching at Fielding Graduate University